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Abused Women Equals
An Abused Nation
By Roy Masters <Fhuroy@aol.com>
8-7-00
 
 
Abused women are fascinated by, and attracted to, unsavory men. The abundance of damaged women is most likely the reason the 1990's saw an abusive president and government elected to power. Just as such women replicate, in their relationships, the living hell of their childhood, so goes America. Hold on; it may yet not be too late-there is an answer provided the cause is thoroughly understood.
 
Fascists are abused children
 
Ten years after the collapse of the Berlin Wall, the Communist party secured 40 percent of the German vote. East Germans could not have understood that 40 years of the "Stockholm syndrome" had made them permanent victims, Manchurian candidates carrying forward the agenda of their corrupters even in freedom. Just as abused women replicate the misery of their home life in marriage, so did the programmed East Germans project the environment that created them into their new "home." Now the specter of tyranny hangs over their West German liberators just as it presently does over American soil.
 
The principles described in this text are currently being utilized to enslave the American people. Russian psychiatrists have developed highly subtle and sophisticated forms of cruelty based on the phenomenon of the abused woman in order to demoralize and thus subvert the allegiance of entire populations. The principle is known as psychopolitics. The conversion of Americans to socialism could not have been accomplished without the aid of the American media, and our compromised government educational system.
 
Millions of Americans are presently being converted to the slavery of socialism, oblivious to what is happening to them, and those of us who are not so persuaded are perceived as enemies of the state. We who see the embrace of our countrymen's socialist media-dominated corrupters cry out in frustration and protest. Alas, protesting for redress of grievances only becomes grounds for persecution.
 
Those of us who still retain our loyalty to American values find ourselves in danger when standing up to the compromised masses who still believe they are Americans. Any resentment and hostility toward them can have the same demoralizing effect of standing up to an unreasonable spouse or child. Anger only empowers their unreasonableness, and can drive you crazy and place you in peril of conversion.
 
Politically speaking, both the fascist left and right are mostly abused children who have taken on the identity of their hate objects, usually a pair of unrepentant, brutal parents. Vowing never again to be victims, they are driven to seek the "safe" parental authoritarian power. Governments posses the potential power of an all-powerful, untouchable parent to legally demoralize and degrade, to even license murder with impunity. The compromised are drawn to the promise of this potential, abandoning little chunks of their sovereignty as they rise in the bureaucratic ranks, until there's no real self left. If you have ever wondered why people in power make such dumb decisions, it is because they have abandoned the common values of decency in exchange for personal power. Once power is tasted, it becomes addictive and compels the individual to become more ruthless for the sake of that power.
 
The American left seek the security of that untouchable dictatorship of parental power. Before that can happen, with the help of the infiltrated media, the present constitutional government has to be dismantled. Socialists (Fascists) would rather rule in hell than be servants in heaven; destruction and desolation is their creation. The evidence of socialist influence may be observed in America's inner cities. The failure of American schools is no accident-it is by design.
 
Militant (Fascist) homosexuals have successfully used the Stockholm syndrome to bully psychiatric science into accepting their perverse behavior as normal. That opened the door to attain legal standing for their deadly lifestyle. Now they can now legally impose their obnoxious political agenda upon the rest us, claiming hate speech and discrimination upon encountering any resistance. Legally empowered to intimidate an entire population, especially vulnerable children in the school system, guarantees converts to their way of life.
 
The driving force behind political power and acceptance is usually the compensation for inferiority and fear. Fear and inferiority drive victims to become the terror, rather than remain the terrorized, all nice and legal. Before the actual political takeover of America can occur, the socialist fascist must have command of our values, which is accomplished by infiltrating the media and our universities. In William Shirer's book, "The Rise and Fall of the Third Reich," he described Adolf Hitler as a man monumentally intolerant by his very nature, yet strangely tolerant of one human condition -- a man's morals. No other party in Germany came close to attracting so many shady characters. Politics and, yes, even academe is fatally flawed with shady characters willing to give what's left of their soul in exchange for the "anointing" of authority.
 
Battered World
 
The Stockholm syndrome describes a post-traumatic phenomenon of passengers, trapped in an airliner with terrorists, who experienced an altered state of consciousness. Stress had somehow created an unnatural sympathy for their tormentors, which persisted after their release. Since the dawn of history, tyrants have always instinctively understood the use of terror as a means of conversion. Intimidation demoralizes entire populations into submission. All tyrants know that hostility toward them creates that hypnotic bond of compulsive loyalty. With the help of the media, an entire nation will conform to the will of one single individual. Political intimidation is just a more sophisticated form of the pressure found in all too many homes.
 
Patty Hurst, heiress to the famed San Francisco newspaper conglomerate, is an interesting example of the Stockholm syndrome. Kidnapped, raped and tortured by the rebel Syndinese Liberation Army, Patty Hurst felt that perverse affection for her captors that bound her to a life of crime for the approval of her corrupters.
 
Upon being rescued, she was questioned as to why she robbed banks and behaved contrary to her nature, noting that she could have easily walked away at one point. She replied that she didn't want to believe that she could be compelled against her will. This is precisely the same kind of feeling of obligation everyone feels under pressure, excused as an "I don't want to hurt their feelings" kind of thing.
 
In our personal lives, pressure awakens in us that same compulsion to comply with what is demanded of us, but we end up going along because our feelings have always told us what to think. Therefore, whoever can make us think emotionally can make what they want appear to be what we want. At that point, conscience is no longer sovereign or holds sway over our lives. To one degree or another, we all give in to our feelings, believing that it is unnatural to deny them. Our philosophy becomes warped to think that it is even unspiritual to deny ourselves. Do what feels good or what relieves the pressure; that is the way most people think.
 
Adolf Hitler came to power by the way he made people feel. He politically empowered demoralized people to demoralize other people. By making a virtue out of rage, he amplified the anger of the mob, which allowed him to project his will through the expression of their violence. As the result, Germany became a nation of soulless victims-turned-victimizers, weak before the strong and strong before the weak, all passing glorifying power up to one man at the top-Adolph Hitler. And when the country ran out of victims, Nazi Germany, acting as cells of one individual body, began to plunder their neighbors for slaves, just as individuals do in a family, school, and work environment. The Socialist's power structure is always threatened by the natural resistance of freedom-loving people. Totalitarian power is godlike and absolute; no one must be allowed to escape. Everyone must conform.
 
Long before the Berlin Wall fell, this writer predicted that the Soviets intended to turn the Cold War defeat into victory. The Russian strategists had every intention of "freeing" their people to the West, knowing full well that they would carry their contagion with them. Resolute individuals fleeing from communism stand a chance of recovering their individuality in an environment in freedom. But when the Berlin Wall fell, the sluice gates of hell were opened, and an entire population of the indoctrinated inundated Democratic West Berlin. You see, freedom in some cases is not free. Very few can escape from what is lurking in them, awaiting the next opportunity to take root, as with the abused woman and her next family. The escape to freedom of just one single person threatens the entire socialist system of power. You see, no one must be allowed to discover, and possibly undo, what has been done to them. No one must be allowed to survive to shine a way for others to follow.
 
To see this principle in action we need only to revisit the saga of Elian Gonzales, the six-year-old whose mother drowned helping him escape from Cuba. Can you see why Dictator Fidel Castro did not allow Elian's father to remain in America without that entourage of psychiatrists and politicians? Can you also see why Castro sent Elian's classmates to be with him while the court settled his relatives' plea for asylum? It was the same as bringing the whole country of Cuba over to secure the father's loyalty, by providing the presence of the familiar conditioning to reawaken and restore Elian's allegiance to communism.
 
Shaggy Gods
 
The terror of coming from an abusive family or school predisposes people to dictatorship. Anything intimidating can take over your conditioning. One does not need to be a psycho-political manipulator to have control over others; your pet cat can do it. Even your spoiled brat can control you. For example:
 
One day your cat walks between your legs, trips you and you fall. Angry and upset, you begin to feel guilty. And then, compensating for the harm you think you've done to your pet (you really haven't-it is the anger that causes the guilt), you generously give it a bowl of milk. Comforting your angry frustration and slavish devotion with a meow of approval, your pet encourages both your frustration and your cat-pleasing behavior.
 
Cat saviors provide the delusion of worth that sugarcoats an unconscious cesspool of guilt and anxieties. In other words, wherever one finds eccentric "animal lovers," there too will you find benevolent creature tyrants. Shaggy dogs becomes shaggy Gods-so much beloved, in fact, that eccentrics often leave their entire estates to their pets. If a pet can become a tyrant, then why not one of your kids? After all, they are surely smarter manipulators than animals.
 
Children become spoiled rotten despots exploiting their parent's inherent weakness for servitude. All little brats need do is to yell, scream, frustrate and never be satisfied with what is done for them, then perhaps award a Brownie button display of affection. The emotional scene created by children who want their own way becomes legislation by hysteria in Congress. Those who want their way with us, whether it is the fascism of the left or the right, is never conducted in a calm, thoughtful environment. The media understands the technique of creating an emotional atmosphere to turn the voters away from the right choice of a Democratic Republic to a socialist order of things. Legislation by hysteria is preceded by election by hysteria. In other words, the wrong people give in to power and make laws, public and foreign policy, favoring the kissing cousins of socialism. Religion is no stranger to mind-control conversion.
 
Hell-fire-and-damnation preachers are no saints. Standing unholy in the place of the holy, they snare their flocks by putting in them the "fear of the Lord." Those crafty old goats turn their gullible, approval-seeking following from the true object of worship of Father God to a false sense of security, dependant upon the ministering angels and his "Mother Church." Political brainwashing is not just limited to politics.
 
Worship the beast
 
The ritual use of a venomous serpent is yet another example of terror creating pseudo love and devotion. The ominous presence of a snake tends to strike terror in the heart, but something in the creatures spirit can also evoke admiration and fascination. While all over the world there are the different gods, snakes, rats, idols and their worshipers, the principle remains constant for every person of the every race, color and Creed that ever walked the earth. Creature worshipers are compelled to elect the God of their recreation and conversion in order to perfect and to complete the false sense of worth of their implanted, imperfect being. Homage to the creature spirit is experienced as glorifying honor to the devotedly grateful dead.
 
The Dracula principle
 
Allow me to describe the Stockholm syndrome in the way that is more familiar to you. The mythical vampire Dracula, upon biting his victims, drinks their life blood and at the same moment plants his identity inside them. Immediately, the implanted identity craves/loves validation for its new self, but is obliged to give more life blood in exchange for it. There is in the victim a dichotomy of longing and loathing. When all the life has been drained out of her body, the victim dies and is reborn as the undead, a bloodsucking vampire herself. Does this sound familiar, and does it not apply in a similar way to your own life with your abusers?
 
When you are intimidated, it is the same as being bitten and taking on the identity of the violator. Child molesters, robbers, and murderers have all been bitten; they have all died and become born-again vampires taking a perverse pleasure feeding from their victims, who in turn die and become born-again vampires, until an entire nation becomes death-centered with a political vampire presiding over all. From the smallest indiscretion to the most heinous crime, we all excuse our impulses, taking them to be (until serious conscience kicks in) the right and good thing to do. Always, any willful resistance (resentment) against our impulses feeds the problem, and sooner or later we end up giving in to whoever and whatever we struggle against. All those who excuse and indulge in their failings are also apologists for their tyrants.
 
The reason why you give in not only to your tyrants, but also to your weaknesses, is because the moment you see the aggravating fault, you become threatened. The observation of the mere memory of your sins threatens your image, intimidating you for the absolution of acceptance. Of course there is never any relief, because the light of Conscience illuminates the "the vampire nature." Again and again we cringe in denial and seek comfort in "Dracula's embrace."
 
There is no escape; you will react to the tyrant that got in to you exactly the same way you reacted to it in the world. Therefore, if you continue to be upset with your (intimidating) problem, it becomes worse. The surrender to the tyrant without becomes the capitulation to its pleasure within. Your tyrant no longer has to be physically present; the Phantom tyrant can control you from beyond the grave.
 
Being upset gives us one of two very bad choices: give in to the tyrant, become one yourself and take it out on others, or push those feelings down and go about superficially doing the "right thing." Repressed emotion can cause mental, emotional and physical disease, and, God forbid, driven by thoughts of suicide, to do the unthinkable. The truth of the matter is that few of us have any real self; we only think we know who we are. Furthermore, no manipulator in his wrong mind is about to awaken his sleepwalking servant.
 
To illustrate the point: you are trying to break a habit, and you are doing pretty well. One day you are sitting in a train, or perhaps a restaurant, and some thoughtless person who should have been sitting in the nonsmoking section lights up a cigarette. Irritated at this obnoxious person for ignoring the "no smoking" sign, you suddenly get the impulse to smoke, and smoke you do. Presto, the Stockholm syndrome revisited.
 
Forty-seven years of research and counseling has provided me the knowledge of what all these mentally disturbed tyrants are doing, as well as how to drive a stake in their heart, defeat their purpose, and of course to save your life. The dilemma I have to face in trying to help people is knowing that it is much easier to put people to sleep, and keep them asleep, than it is to awaken the masses to the folly of their ways. The perception of reality that keeps people in perpetual denial is provided by the seductively comforting media propaganda.
 
Do you see now how the perpetuation of one single wrong response, that of resentment toward intimidation, precedes the eventual loss of all self-determination and political democratic sovereignty? Every time you are upset, your entire future changes. Every time you are intimidated and upset, emotion separates you from self-determination and introduces you to a life of slavery or mindless rebellion. Only when you learn to deal with intimidation with grace under fire can you ever hope to avoid conditioning, and live freely.
 
Victims are despot apologists The person-pleasing aspect of brainwashing is preceded by three stages of damage to the psyche. Response to intimidation produces guilt, guilt becomes the feeling of inferiority and worthlessness, then comes that void for love that identifies the corrupter as the source of its fulfillment. The next level of control is called transference. Your servitude is then transferred to any authority who looks like, acts like, and has the same attitude as the person who violated you long ago. In other words, you will be a slave for life, your own denial and defensiveness keeping you trapped.
 
Tyrants know that their victims' defensiveness works for them, and the reason why the world embraces them as saviors. No matter how evil that tyrant may be, victims always overlook their obvious flaws in exchange for their loving favors. In the United States of America, millions of people are enamored with communism, overlooking the evidence of hundreds of millions murdered for their political opinions under socialist regimes. And on the political extreme right, the Holocaust never happened. The battered woman likewise will excuse the viciousness of her mate for the validation of his nature now inside her.
 
Passive aggressive
 
Every abused woman is likewise imprinted with the seeds of both the victim and the bully. She is weak before the strong and strong before the weak, depending upon the relationship-which is to say, her children are in danger of being infected. Her submissive side seeks to be anointed; in other words, it seeks power through recognition in exchange for the "service" of her love. When she discovers that she is getting the short end of the stick, her anger is kindled and goes underground as subversion. Now she begins to betray and undermine her man while faking love for him. Then there's the moment of truth where she is caught, and in that moment, the confusing bully side could emerge. Caught taking advantage, stealing opportunity and power she was not given, she acts like the victim while being the wrongdoer. Yelling and screaming and carrying on, the very nature of the confusing, manipulating violator begins to appear and sometimes turns the tables on her mate, and roles change.
 
There is something very odd about what I call the victim/victimizer. It is the nature of the bully to be offended at being caught in the act of some nefarious deed. Trauma imprints the spore of the identities of both parents, which makes all bullies cowards and all cowards bullies. They wear two faces, one for their own bully, the other for their victim. The only reason why any abused person continues as a hapless victim is because they are too weak to resist, or because of a modicum of conscience prevents them from becoming what they hated. Anger produces one of two unfortunate choices of roles, to become the bully or a wimp. So the only choice left for person with a conscience is to take the abuse, which seems preferable to being the abuser.
 
Speak up before it's too late
 
The culturally repressed people of Czechoslovakia lived in an environment of political correctness which slowly paralyzed speaking up. When the Nazis invaded their country, they dared not speak up. In America, standing up and being counted has become a dangerous occupation. In many universities there are presently restrictions against so-called "politically incorrect" speech, ostracizing and intimidating to those conservatives who still hold American Judeo-Christian values.
 
The doctrines of politically correct speech as established in many of our universities is a precursor to tyranny. You see, the truth hurts-the truth offends and hurts the feelings of both the compromised and the wicked. Under this system, it is the so-called victim's right to decide what is offensive. If it hurts, it must be a hate crime, even if it is the truth. So speak up, Americans, while you still have your freedoms; do not be afraid of losing what you've always thought of as security. If you do not stand up and fight for what is right when you can easily win, there will come a time when you will have to stand up anyway, when you know you're going to lose. But at that time, prime minister Winston Churchill told Englishmen in World War II, "You will stand up and fight even though you know you are going to die, because it's better to fight and die than live as a slave." Always remember that what you think of as your so-called security can very quickly become your prison cell. Therefore, fellow Americans, take heed-you need to cherish what you know is right and true more than you cherish your securities and comforts.
 
The legacy of the abused woman
 
As you can see, all the problems of the human race can be traced back to one single root cause, all suffering merely being merely a variation of one single theme. What I am about to say, with regard to the cure, may be perceived as being just as verbally hurtful as those who have badmouthed and degraded you in the past. If you are sincerely seeking an answer to your problem, surely it's because you are seeking the truth. However, realistically the first truth is always disturbing. To every stubborn ego, correction seems like hate speech. With that in mind, allow me to cite a typical relationship with men.
 
Perhaps the reason why this article has attracted your attention is because you are that abused woman. If this is so, the chances are that more likely than not you were born into a dysfunctional family. In spite of the cruelty, you somehow retained something that your family had lost -- conscience, and conscience made them feel uncomfortable as though you were watching and judging them. In their eyes you were an ugly duckling, and nothing you could do could ever please them. You were rewarded only with contempt and rejection as you tried to make peace and keep everyone happy. The problem they had with you was that, not only would you not conform, but something in you could not conform. There was a light in you that you didn't know you had. That light was a perpetual threat to the parasitical, abusive world around you. I know you tried through your anger and guilt to change them and make them love you. In a manner of speaking you tried to walk like a duck, and quack like one of them. But you could never really be one of them because you were the beautiful swan. That is why you could never please, because no matter how much you tried you could never really be one of them, and they knew that. That is why the truth is painful and will set you free as you hold up your light to the vampirish, bloodsucking world around you.
 
One way or another the noble father every child needs was not there for you. Pick which one: wimp, alcoholic, drug addict, and womanizer. Anyway you slice it, children need the love of a heroic dad to protect them from the world, sometimes even from their mother. In this variation, your mother enabled your father to become what he was. Abused women with a poor self-image will put up with anything to hold on to a weird sense of security, by feeding themselves to their husband's rage.
 
There is an old saying: "Weakness is the handmaiden of wickedness." Weakness emboldens wickedness to take liberties, providing that rush of power to which all tyrants are addicted. By resenting your father's cruelty, you identified with your mother, allowing the programming of the people-pleasing female to be passed on to you. Your mother in her cowardly submissiveness bequeathed you the legacy of the abused woman syndrome. You always felt the guilt that your abuser needed to feel, because your resentment made you doubt what was right, and indeed you were guilty of that. To cure that problem, all you need to do is forbear to be resentful toward your intimidator from now on, and Presto! he or she will begin to experience the guilt of their shameful behavior toward you, and begin to fry in your light. Careful now; they will just be trying to intimidate you out of your newfound dignity, so be prepared to stand your ground patiently until they are over their tantrum.
 
Your past turmoil has emotionally programmed you. A loveless or cruel family represents betrayal and injustice that seduced you to hate your parents. Parents are supposed to protect their children from corruption rather than being its source. Anger happens to be one of the deadly sins that separates a child from God's love, and converts the allegiance to love to be filled from a corrupter's vile affection-in this case, the cruel father. Therefore, if your violator is your father, then throughout your life your loyalty to the God of your conscience will be diverted to seek to be fulfilled through men like your father. In other words, you have been programmed to a life of servitude in exchange for love, but all you will ever find, unless you become the abuser, is abuse. A woman can live out her life of quiet desperation with resentments smoldering underground, oozing out in many kinds of emotional and physical illnesses.
 
A fascination with naughty boys
 
Psychology can only guess as to the mystery of the abused woman, without coming up with any real answers. The answer has always been under their noses; the culprit is ego. What they are missing is the emotional connection.
 
Women are drawn to flattery like a bee to honey. To hold on to that ego rush, the abused woman rewards the man with the pleasure of her body and thereby converting male weakness for her into virtue, a sexual addiction that eventually ravages her. When this compulsive affection is eventually seen for what it really is, abuse by way of sex, then comes the revulsion of hatred towards the "beloved".
 
At this point that vicious cycle kicks in. Resentment creates guilt; guilt awakens female sexual longing for approval to assuage the guilt. If the man is a wimp for love, the woman's ego is bound by her loathing to service his maternal dependency. Manacled to him with need she once thought was glorious love awakens such a horrible contempt for him that it can drive her to drink, and to seek love from other men. Internal conflict can cause the poor woman to end up with a nervous breakdown. Most women are in such denial, so stubborn and hardened against the truth, that they may never wake up to find the true love they seek. Terrible need compels them toward endless futility, and a great void that is never filled.
 
And so it came to pass you were born into this scene. If you have been able to read thus far, and have not run off screaming into the night, then I can tell you that you are not quite like any of your parents, so there is real hope for you. It is also possible that your mother may not be quite like one of those mean-spirited women who takes perverse pleasure in gloating over the inferiority of men. Your parents may have been helplessly creating victims too.
 
Now that you're old enough to approach Mom with your new dignity, her old nature just might melt in your presence, revealing a long-suffering friend. Here also, you may find that your father is not such a bad sort after all. Your mother may have unwittingly set him up to fail, and so passed on to you the mantle of judgment she felt from her mother. In this manner, your perception of your father was distorted by her implanted emotion, and as through her eyes, you began to see him as a failure, establishing the pattern of contempt for all men. Remember the principle of transference.
 
Because you were blessed from the day you were born, you had no stomach for the kind of love you were compelled to give to get, and took no pleasure in the judgment you felt. Unlike most people, you are happy to understand your fault, which liberates you now to know the truth that will set you free.
 
You were hypnotically drawn to failing men, and if they were not failing, then you set them up to fail, so as to fix. Your compulsion required men who needed fixing. Hardened, sensual women revel in both lust and judgment, and feel like Mother Superior over every "son" made over in her image. There is judgment upon the rebel son and husband, and an outpouring of saccharine love for the helpless, pathetic and often schizophrenic dependent she has created to worship her, in what becomes mutual hell.
 
Bad experiences makes all too many women so cynical that it is difficult for them to distinguish a good man from a bad one. Attitude can easily set up all men to fail, even the good ones. If a decent man comes along to give love and the occasional needed correction, they rebel against his male authority. A contentiously stubborn individual is unable to receive constructive criticism from anyone. This is the main reason for continued trouble with men. One cannot always be right, and then expect to have a relationship. Bitterness and mistrust causes the belief that men are incapable of love, that they need to be changed, tenderized and feminized. Bitterness has somehow converted the need for love into the need to the worshiped.
 
The spirit of the void
 
The point should be clear by now, that the people-pleasing aspect of brainwashing is preceded by those three stages of damage to the psyche. Resentment causes guilt, guilt becomes feeling of inferiority, worthlessness and a desperate compulsion to fill the emptiness with the affection of fiendish friends.
 
The spirit of the void, seeking fulfillment, identifies with the spirit of the corrupter in all its forms: in people, places and things throughout life. There's an old saying: "You can take the boy out of the country but you cannot take the country out of the boy." The seed does not fall far from the tree. Throughout life, the person-pleaser will transfer their allegiance to any look-act-smell-alike authority possessed by the characteristics of those who set them up in their formative years. The spirit of the violating parent literally hands you over to a life of servitude to authorities who finishes the job. Remember that in every victim, there lurks also the spirit of the bully which can emerge as the corrupter, seeking that rush of power from a weaker vessel with evangelical zeal.
 
Therefore have compassion for your parents, your brothers and sisters. You are presently standing in their shoes, and like yourself they were once innocent children. Therefore love, which is to say, drop your resentment toward them and forgive them, for they know not what they do. Even if they do know the harm they've done and are not sorry, all the more reason to forbear to resent them. Either way, friend or foe, your life will change for the better.
 
Perhaps you understand now what it means to be born in sin. It simply means that from the beginning the human race has experienced corruption, and fallen asleep to the truth of who they were. And so, the conditioned response to the ancestor serpent-worshiping aspect of love and devotion has spread throughout the generations and the world. Through one man sin, and (a life that leads to) death through sin, came into the world and has spread exponentially throughout all despot-ruled nations.
 
The awakening
 
If you have been able to read thus far and have not run off screaming into the night, then there is real hope for you. It is also quite possible that your parents did not intend harm to you, because they were compelled. They may have been aware of the harm they were doing, but could not prevent slavishly obeying the programming of their youth.
 
Your freedom and dignity may awaken them to salvation-therefore, approach your parents with a detached dignity, and see what happens. You never can tell; you might find a friend rather than the fiend you thought them to be. In the event there is fiend inside them, be careful-confront them patiently with your new composure, and that will immunize you against any attempt to savage you. Deal patiently with all people from now on. If it is meant to be, your parents' old nature will melt, revealing a long-suffering friend.
 
You may also find that your father is not such a bad guy after all. It could be that your mother, commanded by that inherited spell, set him up to fail you both. That is why you felt what your mother felt toward dad, and hence with all men.
 
Much compassion is needed for men. Since the first failing father that begot the human race, came the procession of failing fathers complete with enabling Eves. Something needs to be worked out here, so give your man breathing space through patient love. Forbear to resent him, and the compulsion to enable him will disappear. From the first Eve proceeded the mortality of male pride calling forth from the women the first enabling love, a legacy replicated throughout the generations. The tragedy of dictatorship continues, until fallen man and woman find the truth that will set them free.
 
A simple solution to everything
 
Would it make sense to say that if you weren't upset and so guilty, you would then not have the need to make up for anything? Have I not said that resentment is the root of guilt, as well as the need for the enabling love to sooth the pain? If that is so, then from now on, endure your burden patiently, and watch your guilt fade away. You will soon lose your fear of standing up boldly to any adversary; no longer will you feel insecure and unworthy, a love slave no more. You see, it takes the union with God's love to conquer the hate you feel.
 
What does the good book say about this? "Through patience will you possess your souls." Love (which is to say, forebear to resent) your enemy, do kindness to those that hate you. Hold up the mirror of dignity under fire, and watch the entire course of your life change. If you will allow yourself to experience remorse and sadness for the harm you have caused by searching for worshipful love, then you too will experience the forgiveness of God. You will be at peace with yourself, and perhaps at war with the world. But surely, that is much better than being at war with yourself, and at peace with the world!



 
 
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