For
ages many people have sought happiness without ever knowing the
foolproof, two-step method for finding all the joy they would ever
want.
Perhaps
some of those seekers had even stumbled across this fail-safe way to
greater happiness, but dismissed it all as being too simple to work.
While the two steps of this method are simple enough, it is the
execution of its dual process that will determine one’s level of
success in the attainment of their own happiness.
You
might be surprised to find out that the Open
Sesame to your own
personal happiness is the elegantly simple, two-fold process of Goal
Setting and Attainment.
Even
a happiness that seems to spring out of nowhere had some basis in a
goal wrapped in the form of a desire, need, or want coming to
fruition.
Warning:
Please never make
happiness your goal, as happiness is no more than the result
of someone making good progress toward a known goal they have set
knowingly or unknowingly.
Make
your road to happiness a high-speed expressway.
First,
set a personal, worthwhile goal for yourself.
Then
obtain your happiness by the steady attainment of that goal.
Once
we accomplish one of our personal goals, we are usually roaringly
flooded with a good deal of short-lived euphoria, which is shortly
followed by an emotional comedown.
Why
should we suffer such a letdown?
The
steady accomplishment of the goal that had kept us so happy no longer
exists. There is no more goal toward which we can make steady
progress.
Once
a personal goal is accomplished, we would be wise to establish a new
one.
I
think you will agree that this sure-fire method of achieving
happiness is certainly uncomplicated. And for those who effectively
apply it, this method for attaining happiness is profoundly powerful.
Simply put, making progress on your personal goals is inherently
fundamental to your happiness.
Intrinsic
to our universe, however, are the dual polarities of positive
and negative.
This means that anything that can make you happy also carries the
potential of rendering you terribly unhappy. How could this be? By
you setting your heart and soul on an unworthy, or unattainable,
unrealistic goal.
While
it is laudable to have the goal of there being no more starving
children in our world, how realistic is it for that to occur, at
least, in your lifetime?
Also
please keep your goals personal. Perhaps the greatest potential for
unhappiness lurking in the goal-setting process occurs when our
purposes involve trying to fundamentally bring about some kind of
change in someone else especially in our associates, friends,
relatives, parents, children, wives, husbands, or other loved ones.
In
truth, the process of trying to override the freewill of another
being is heavily fraught with much peril, as are the clearly negative
intentions to damage anyone. Such unworthy goals and intentions
should be avoided at all costs, at all times.
Without
setting positive, challenging, but realistically attainable, goals
happiness will always be largely beyond our reach.
In
order to get into the practice of setting goals, begin with small but
ethical projects you can surely accomplish given the proper
motivation. Then progress to more viable goals ones you are
certain would bring you happiness … if accomplished.
I
have an idea of a relatively small goal you could accomplish if you
so choose. How about starting with this book you are now holding in
your hands? What if you were to set the goal for yourself of coming
up with at least one brand new realization of life for each chapter
of this volume?
Do
you you think your progress of such a goal would be of any benefit to
you? Do you think you could derive a degree of happiness from your
success at such an endeavor?
I
hope so. But in any case, I believe you are able to fashion your life
along the lines you choose. And, I am confident that you will choose
wisely.
J.
Speer-Williams
Jsw4@mac.com |